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The Myth of Arrival

It’s interesting how we can feel like we hit a point where we’ve arrived and that it’s a destination with some kind of permanence. Whether this be arriving at a state in our relationships and with love or with happiness or job success.  That arriving means it will be like “this” going forward… but really, the maintenance to stay in that place (or close to it) is quite different from the journey to get there.

Some video fun I made for y’all during my lunch break while snacking on a chicken patty… or two.

Taylor Swift. Singer. Songwriter. Legendary Stoic.

I’m not sure when the exact moment hit me, to be honest with you.  The great epiphanies in life, while radical and perspective changing, can often sneak up on you over a period of time before you suddenly have it all up in your face with complete and utter clarity.  But this happened to me… when I realized Taylor Swift is a Stoic.

Oh sure, even as I sit in front of my computer and type these words out in a blog post that is only at its outset, I can sense your total skepticism in the future and across the Interwebz.  But that’s my magical superpower…umm, pre-guessing skepticism.  Yeah, I got it… it’s not adamantium claws or super strength or anything wicked cool like that, but we seldom get to choose such things, OK?  I make the best use of the gifts bestowed upon me.

See, I’ve been rather enamored with the lessons set forth by Marcus Aurelius in his timeless Meditations (my favorite translations thus far being this one) and recently began reading “The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holiday, a more modern take on applying the wisdom of the Stoics to the modern day notion of using your trials, failures and obstacles as the means to personal success.  Nothing quite like using ideas developed more than 2,000 years ago to tackle things in our hyper-connected world of today, right?

If you were to boil down Stoicism to its most basic elements, it’s the view that while you have no control over the events of the world or the actions of others towards you, you always have a choice on how you react to those events/actions and the decisions you make in living your life.  No one can take your free will from you for anything – your freedom is always your own and you hold responsibility for that at all times.  In doing so, reason and knowledge make up your inner fortress where you move beyond being shackled to the whims of pain and pleasure.  It’s all on you… which is a profoundly liberating way of thinking of things.

So, at some point in the combination of reading Holiday’s book and popping through one of my Spotify playlists that some T-Swizzle hit my earpieces and it struck me… Ms. Swift is actually a Stoic.

I feel like it should have been clear all along, really.  The parallels are there if you are willing to open your eyes to them.

For example, Epictetus wrote:

Don’t let the force of an impression when it first hit you knock you off your feet; just say to it: Hold on a moment; let me see who you are and what you represent. Let me put you to the test.

Contrast this to Ms. Swift in “The New Romantics”:

We are too busy dancing
To get knocked off our feet
Baby, we’re the new romantics
The best people in life are free

She’s living her life, dancing away as she so chooses and because of that, has no time to be knocked off her feet.  I’m sure Epictetus could turn quite a jig back in his day as well (OK, this is utterly wild conjecture) and would appreciate that (a) she’s not getting knocked off her feet; and (b) she recognizes that those who live freely are the best kind of people. And what is Stoicism if not these two things?

Oh you need more?  Then I submit for your consideration the following:

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Yup – T-Swift has no time for your tomfoolery and jibber-jabber and unto all of that she will drop the universal sign language for “Suck it” on you, endlessly in the magic loop of this GIF. (As an aside, if you pronounce as JIF like the peanut butter, you are an awful person who takes themselves with a level of seriousness that I cannot abide).  For her, it matters not the slings and arrows of the world nor the endless hollow praise heaped upon her for she finds only respite within reason and clear thinking.  And telling punks to suck it.

I can sense it… I can sense you beginning to see the parallels between Swifty and Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and Seneca.  Now it’s time to bring this all home rapidly… quickly…dare I say…swiftly. I present to you the capstone of my argument and the magnum opus of Ms. Swift’s artistic canon… “Shake It Off”:

I mean, where to even begin with such a rich trove of philosophical nuggets?

First off, regardless of the negativity brought her way from those who speak ill of her intelligence or dating life, she’s going to (a) keep cruising; (b) can’t stop and will not, in fact, stop moving; and (c) has this music within her affirming all of this.

Sure, the players may continue to play, the haters continue to hate, the heartbreakers continue to break and yes, the fakers continue to fake as they are wont to do…but Tay-Tay?  Oh, my friends, she will only shake it off, shake it off.  That’s the benefit of never missing a beat and being lightning on your feet, in the end.  It’s an entire song devoted to taking the negatives that come your way in life, those things over which you have zero control and letting them slide right past because you are the only one who can choose how to observe those events and place them into their proper context.  Seriously.

In the end, Stoicism can seem like the drab, humorless philosophy of a bunch of Romans from a few thousand years ago and confined to musty tomes or Intro to Philosophy courses in your first year of college. But in reality, it’s not at all – you can still have moments of sadness or elation, but you act not to be ruled by such things entirely, especially when they come at the whims and interests of others.  Stoicism is a remarkable way of creating resiliency within yourself and while it’s not easy (mild understatement), it is effective.

And sometimes you just need to widen your perspective a bit and realize while probably was always in your heart all along, even as you fought against admitting it…that T-Swizzle is not just the philosopher you wanted, she’s also the one you need.